I don’t start formal schooling as long as the weather is warm. We like to garden and swim and go to the mountains and the park. Summer flees so fast—we want to enjoy every green, luscious moment outdoors! When “pencil weather” brings a nip in the air, then we pull out the books and everyone seems ready to put in some serious study.
But it’s summer still! Every morning, Louisa and I go out in the garden to see what developments have taken place since the day before. We harvest, and weed a bit, give approving words of encouragement to our developing garden, and size up the growing cucumbers and the baby eggplants, so purple and glossy! While we were picking green beans, Louisa told me she was interested in learning about the human body and when we got back inside, I directed her to the bookshelf where I keep my health and herb books. She shuffled through them and settled on a thick medical volume complete with pictures of skin conditions, and illnesses detailed by symptoms. I didn’t pay much attention as she engrossed herself for hours in satisfying her interest. Then she began to diagnose conditions in her own body, and in others. She read me some informative passages about what I could do for my own ailments. She was teaching me.
Once again, I learned the lesson that keeps me homeschooling:
Children (and adults) learn best when they have an interest and seek out information to satisfy their yearn to know.
This does not have to be in a formal classroom. In fact, that type of learning seldom fills their need fast enough or thoroughly enough. As homeschool moms, we would do much better to consider ourselves “facilitators” than “teachers”. To facilitate is to “facil” (Latin root for “to make easy, to smooth the way”). If we could think of our job title as “Way-Smoother”, then we would be eager to find the books, take the kids to the library, help them locate the right website, take them to museums, find experts for them to talk to, get the supplies for their projects—we’d be eager to smooth their way in their thirst for knowledge.
I would always rather learn with my child, than teach at him! For one thing, it is a more respectful relationship when both persons are trying to learn together than when one assumes he/she knows the most and feels the other person should just open up his mouth and swallow everything that is dished out. No matter how wise you are as a mom or a teacher, there is always more to learn. And hard questions that you can’t answer are to be rejoiced in—they open the way for deeper study and learning together!
As I listened to Louisa tell me about various conditions, trying to say their medical names, and showing me pictures of them, I realized that it would be utter foolishness to try to pull a Health Ed class on her right now. I would hinder her way, rather than smooth it. She has so much more natural interest at the moment than I could ever generate with a textbook and lessons. She’ll feast and feast at the learning table until she is satiated, and no test or worksheet could capture the great enthusiasm she currently has! You can’t keep kids from learning!
Homeschooled children need 1) time, 2) resources and 3) someone to help smooth the way, and make learning easier—a facilitator. Be a good one today!





{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }
I'd sure love to hear your comment!
Thank you for your wonderful views on homeschooling. I have 4 children and each of them learn very differently. I think I would love to be more like a "way-smoother" because right now I feel like I get bogged down in the rules. Your day sounded very relaxed and now I find myself jealous…LOL
Thanks again!
I think you are wise to realize that once he goes to preschool, he will be harder to keep home. The point here is that he is expressing a need. He needs other children and he is eager to have the social interaction that he supposes school would fulfill. So, do what you can to make that happen! I hope you are in a support group that meets weekly, and can also set up a couple of play dates per week for him. A homeschool co-op would be ideal, where moms join together to teach each other's children. This will give him the friends and contact that he yearns for. Neighbor children can add to his friends, but they will be busy going off to school before too long, and their worlds diverge and he will have less in common with them. Find the homeschoolers in your area and get your boy want he wants so much socially. Then he'll be happy to homeschool and I have no doubt you'll be up to the task to keep him excited about learning!
My oldest will be 4 in a few months and I've decided to homeschool. He loves to be around other people and always asks when we drive by the local school when it will be his turn to go. I've debated whether or not to send him to preschool, but worry that it would then be harder to keep him home. Do you have any suggestions? He loves to learn, and explore, and his memory is incredible to me. I worry sometimes I won't know how to keep him excited about learning. How do I do it?